Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Everyone's heard the "once a cheater, always a cheater", but does everyone believe in it?

I have to say that I have cheated on two boyfriends before. One knows I did and the other has no clue. So when my husband and I started to date, I told him that I had cheated before (some would say that wasn't smart, but I can't lie to him), and of course I worried that he'd think that "if she cheated on other guys, she'll cheat on me." But I think that you learn from your mistakes.

The first person I cheated on, he wasn't in love with me and I was in love with him, and I thought that if i went out with other guys, then I'd find someone who did love me. Needless to say, when I cheated, I felt horribly guilty and made me realize how much I loved him.

I would never cheat on my husband now, because I learned after I cheated, that I would never want someone to do it to me.

So is it that I got mature? or just kinda "learned my lesson?" who knows. But I do know some people who are older then I am (i'm only 26), and who are still cheating on their gfs, or just started.

But I do have to say, that if someone I was with had cheated, or had cheated on someone to be with me, I'd be worried about them doing the same thing to me. Call me a hypocrite.

my dream

Considering my latest blog about using toys on guys, you'll love this one!!

My husband is totally against ANYTHING near his ass. But last night, I had this messed up dream related to that.

Previously, I asked my husband if he had any fantasies that he hadn't told me, and he said no. So in my dream my husband and I were making out and he decided to tell me this fantasy that he was a little embarassed about.

He was afraid it would turn me off by this and a little nervous about telling me, but I kept telling him it was ok and that I wanted him to tell me.

So he brings out this pencil sized dildo and says he wants me to use it on him. Needless to say, I was incredibly turned off but I kept acting like I was interested, except his hand was on my p**sy and I was sooooooooo not getting wet. lol.

Thankfully I woke up before I used it on him!!!

I know maybe it's wrong, but I dont care to use anything on a guy. I fingured a guy once, who wanted to try it, but it totally didn't turn me on. Infact, it was kinda gross. But if my husband said he was into it, i'd do it.

Needless to say, I told him my dream and he was so grossed out, but we laughed about it. Infact, I was laughing as I was trying to tell the story, knowing how he doesn't want anything near his butt.

My comment to him was that "I never want to see the inside of your butt crack, unless you cut it, and I need to put neosporan on it." lol

Sex Toys on Men

Has anyone been asked by a bf or a fuck buddy to use a sex toy on them?

I knew this guy who LOVED giving me anal more so then anything else, and he was super feminine. So it got me thinking. Then after we stopped playing around with him, he told me how he bought a dildo and started trying to use it on himself. And he wanted to know how he can ask his current gf to use it on him lol.

I told him to kinda hint around the topic if he didn't think she'd be ok with it.

So I ask everyone, what would you do if your male significant other asked them to fuck them in the ass (to be blunt)

Prostitution

Prostitution is the topic of the day....

So should it be legal or not? If you've ever seen the "Cat House" on HBO, you'd get a pretty interesting look into the lives of "prostitutes" who can work legally in parts of NV (the only state were it's legal, and it's only legal in certain parts of the state). Or, you can watch the flip side on shows like Cops, where they are arresting illegal prostitutes on the street.

I do have to say that I have no problem with legalized prostitions as long as it's regulated. The reason it's legal in NV is because that every month (although it might be more frequent) they get tested for STDs and they have to use condoms when doing anything sexual with their parties.

I personally think that if we legalized prostitution, that there would be houses like the Bunny Ranch popping up all over the place. And then we'd at least be able to regulate the industry and keep it safe.

ALSO, as a person who studies serial killers (and actually corresponds with 2 of them), they tend to attack prositutes because they are easy targets. If the girls weren't running around on the streets, but were instead living in a house and the guys had to come in and do their business there and then leave, I think prostitution would become much safer.

Difference between men with men and women with women

So i was reading a few different comments on the post I put about shemales, and well it brought up a few questions in my mind. In todays society we see women kissing all the time, in movies, on tv shows, at parties, its pretty much everywhere. What isn't every where is men on men, not that i am into that I would much rather see women together, but still there are gay men out there and some women who do like to see it. I have heard a few people make the comment to me that they hate to see men walking in public holding hands and kissing, that it grosses them out, but when asked about women they don't feel the same way, it just doesn't bother them as much or at all.

There are also people who dont like public displays of affection at all. Me personaly, hey you want to show the world you are all about the person by all means have at it. Why is it wrong in this society to be a gay man, homosexual man however you want to put it. There are more and more women who think its trendy to be bi or just be into women and I really think it is because of all the media out there with women on women in it.

I think its really weird how back when there were kings who ruled everything majority of them were gay, they had friking male sex slaves, and now its so encoded in everyone minds that its not right for men to be with men, but to me it's getting to be okay for women to be with women. Granted women's bodies are beautiful, but some men can have beautiful bodies to. Anyway i guess my point is why is it more acceptable to be a gay or bi women then a gay or bi man. I do think one day it really wont matter if your gay, straight or have no sexual orign whatsoever.

And if anyone says well the bible says its not right for men to be together, then i want to know why it is right to even have sex for any other reason then to reproduce. I guess America is still closed minded and just wants to shut out anything they don't understand or are scared of. Maybe one day anything will go. I do also think some men are scared of the thought of maybe they have thought about a man in a sexually way and they come across as a homophob cause they are asamed of it cause its what some of us grew up to beleive. But anyway I will wrap this up feel free to comment I love to see what other people think on any of this.

Weird Fantasies

So I know everyone has fantasies, and what is classified as weird and normal is all a personal opinion, one of mine may be considered a little weird. So I really like vampires hence a comment on one of Stacey's posts about being bitten, well I love it. I have always wanted to awake to a strikinly gorgerous vampire, like one you might see in Interview with a Vampire, standing over my bed, he will say seductive things that just make me want scream with pleasure, then pull my neck back and gently touch it and kiss it, then of course sink his nice fangs into my skin.

I would also want to be turned into a vampire of course, and have him sweep me away to his castle and we live happily ever after, but that's just my romantic side coming out. I have heard the bite from a vampire is one of the best pleasures in the world, if they didn't exist then how would this be known? Anyway I would never drink someones blood and I would never bit anyone to actually draw blood, and i would never let someone bite my neck and actually puncture skin (unless of course it was a vampire:) I guess that's why they call them fantasies, this one I will just let live in my mind, not one I think I would act out to its full potential. Maybe later I will talk about ones I would act out that aren't potentially dangerous :)

Can you have too much sex?

Of course there is such a thing as being over sexual, you're called a nymphomaniac, nympho for short. But can you really have too much sex? and how much sex do you have to have or want to be considered a nympho?

I was a self proclaimed nympho in my premarital days. And my bf's and fuck buddies at the time would agree. No one was able to keep up with me! Everytime I'd meet a guy, I'd tell them I'm a nympho and their comment would always be "not as much as me", and everyone one admitted that they couldn't keep up with me.

Was I over sexing myself and my relationship? Maybe that's why all my past relationships were based around sex. Because that's all we did!

I do know that having too much sex definately can rub you raw!

you know what i've also found? That if I have sex, then dont have it for a couple of days, the sex is SOOO much better for both of us, then if we were to fuck the next day. I know this is going to sound bad, but you naturally stretch out. So if you give your body some time to relax and shrink again, it feels that much better.

And this one might sound stupid, but can having too much sex be bad for your body? I know that when you have a baby your tend to not be as tight down there, or so I've heard, but can having "other" objects down there make you loose as well?

Obviously, sex can be bad for your body if you are having unprotected sex. Because a disease can ravage your body. But i'm talking more of just having it too much. Am I making any sence?

Any thoughts?

Biting

I dont know why I love being bit so much during sex. but MAN, it gets me wet! I know cat will have comments for this blog :P

I dont like to be bit too hard, at least I dont think, definately not to draw blood. And my most sensitive areas are my neck, throat (i know, that sounds weird), shoulders, down my arms around my bicepts (or lack thereof!) and the spot on the other side of my elbow.

Whenever my hubby bits there, it's instant turn on. It just makes me melt and get weak.

I love it as foreplay for while we're having sex.

anybody else feel this way?

The Worst Breakups

I've had some pretty bad break ups and I'm going to post them below. But please post your comments with your worst break ups too. You know you've had them!!

Breakup #1

Was with my first boyfriend. I was in love with him (or what I thought was love at the time), but he wasn't with me, and probably would never be. We were together for almost a year. So I moved to Las Vegas. After a few months there, he flew me back to NJ (where I was from) and we had a great 2 days together. He told me he loved me (which he doesn't remember saying lol), and begged me to move back. I was miserable in Vegas at the time anyway, so I said "ok", but it would take me about 3 months. He wanted it sooner. so I cut it down to 2.

One week before the move was going to happen, I was chatting with him online and he seemed weird. And I knew how he was, going into chat rooms all the time to talk to girls. So I said "have you met someone else?" and he said yes.

So she says she wants to talk to me. and I tell her what happened, and she said she's back off because she didn't realize how in love with him I was and how he had said he was in love with me. Yah, that was a bunch of BULL. She moved in hard and he ended up staying with her.

Needless to say, 6 years later, he's married to the bitch! But that's ok, shortly after they got together, before my second trip to vegas, I fucked him :P Yah, that's my way of getting back at her, whether she knows he did it or not.


Breakup #2

After the second time I move out to vegas, a few months later, I met this guy and we dated for about 3 months or so. One day, he asks me to come into his room. Me thinking we're going to have sex, I"m excited. Well he lays down on the bed and looks at me and says "are you ready to be fuck buddies now". See, he was a week away from turning 21, and was looking forward to going to bars and picking up women.


Breakup #3

The next guy I go out with was a few months after that one. We were dating for a month and I had already met his parents (that's another interesting blog for later!) And he now asked me to drive from Vegas to Idaho (about 13 hours) with him to his parents home for a few days.

We go, and he's acting all strange, and some might say i'm paranoid, but so far i've been right with my feelings.... so on the way back down to Vegas, about an hour in, I said "what's going on" and he says "I think we should break up, I just dont feel for you the way you did for me". Yah, needless to say I drove the rest of the 12 hours PISSED OFF at him. He took me all the way to Idaho, just to use me as another driver so he didn't have to do the drive himself!!

He also was about to turn 21 and wanted to go pick up chicks at bars and chat rooms.

Thankfully he broke up with me though, because I later befriended his girlfriend and he ended up beating her.


So now tell me yours!

~Stacey

Does looking at porn involving she males make you gay or bi (for guys)??

So i dated this guy and one day i was on his computer, i guess i was kinda snooping, and i found this video player on it. ALL the videos were porn which isnt really a problem, but they were all she male porn. My big problem with it was the way he hid it and acted like he didn't put it on his computer, but i knew it was him. He finally admitted that he was looking at it and he acting like it wasnt a big deal. Which i dont have a problem with porn but to me i kinda felt like he was hiding something from me like maybe he was gay or bi. He really wasn't in to sex that much, it never really lasted all that long maybe the longest we ever went was 20 mins. I watched one of the videos once and it was a dude fucking a chick with a dick in the ass and jerking the dude with boobs off. I asked him he how could he like this stuff when it involves to dicks, and just told me he didnt know that he was just weird. So anyway i could maybe see why a girl would want to fuck a she male, they could get a dick and play with tits at the same time. I just dont understand why a perfectly straight male would want to watch ass fucking with to dicks in the picture ALL the time. So if anyone could clear this up or has anything to say about this situation feel free to comment!!!!!

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Having sex while sick

So this weekend a friend of mine came up with her daughter who was sick. While they were out of the house and we had some alone time, we took a quick shower and had sex. I was unable to cum, which is normal because I'm really hard to get off (I'll explain in another post). When we got out of the shower, my hubby was going to "help me finish." But my friend had come back, and we felt uncomfortable doing anything while they were there.

So we waited.... well, guess what, we both got sick! So needless to say, I'm DYING for this orgasm, because I've been anticipating it for 2 days, and now we can't even kiss because we're afraid of giving each other our germs.

Well I said "screw that! I'm horny!". I wasn't going to let that stop us! But, because he was feeling sick, and we were both tired and it was late, what were we going to do to get me wet!? So I just got the lube and did it that way. Let me tell you, it didn't take long for me to get off at all!

So that just shows you that you CAN have sex while being sick. Screw the foreplay, just figure the quickest to get off!

~Stacey

Is there such a thing as too much porn?

So how much porn is too much?

I was dating this guy who lived about 3 hours from me. I would go and visit him on the weekends, but unfortunately, he had to work. So I would stay at his apartment and just chill, waiting for him to come back.

I knew he owned some porn videos because the first time that I was in his bedroom, he had about 10 by his TV. I told him I thought that was a little excessive and he said "well then I wont show you where I keep the rest."

So about the 3rd weekend I'm there, I needed to do some laundry, but I forgot my detergent. I didn't mean to snoop, but I opened up the cabinet that was in the kitchen/dining room area of his apartment.

Well, let me tell you! This cabinet was floor to ceiling with two sets doors that opened up, one on the bottom and one on the top.

He had porn videos stacked on top of each other and about 3 deep, both DVDs and VHS in the WHOLE cabinet!!

I'm talking 300 or more porn videos easy!

So I freaked out! I didn't yell at him or anything I just mentioned that I found his collection and asked why he needed so many. He said that he'd get bored of one after watching it a few times and need another. Well DAMN. AND I knew he watched each more then once.

Needless to say, after that day, I think I might have saw him one more time. I think THAT much porn is a little over the top. I just couldn't shake that, I think he has a problem!

Did I over react?

~Stacey